Friday, February 01, 2013

"Are you crying? You ARE crying!"


"You may forget with whom you laughed, but you will never forget with whom you wept."
 ~ Kahlil Gibran

About halfway through my time in Anandwan (the leprosy and outcast community introduced here) I started spending time with 8-ish year-old Neesha, who I'd written about recently and also last year. Neesha is blind and quite severely mentally disabled, so it's hard to know what she enjoys, though she hugs like a champ and really just melts into your arms when you pick her up. I took her one day to the deaf kids' playground and had her on the rocking contraption, since she seems to enjoy that. When the deaf girls got out of class they completely enveloped us - 12 kids on and around the four-person swing. They were really curious about Neesha, miming questions about where she lives (in the hospital just down the road,) where her parents are (she's an orphan,) and how old she is (no one knows for sure). The girls were sweet but also a little afraid, since Neesha does look different and they're not used to her. 

At one point I looked at one of the girls and she had such a beautiful and compassionate expression on her face as she looked at Neesha that I got the tiniest little tear in my eye. Another girl looked at me, looked surprised, and mimed, "Are you crying?!" I shook my head and said no, I'm not crying. She mimed, "You ARE crying!" I shook my head more, and said, "No, I'm NOT crying!" She ignored me and motioned to the rest of the girls, "He's crying! He's going to get on a plane, and fly home, and Neesha is going to stay here, and he's going to miss her, and he's sad, and he's crying!" All the little girls looked at each other, nodded their heads in agreement and mimed, "Yeah. He's crying."

Cute!

Love to you!
Dave



Me and Neesha on the swing.



Another shot of the cabbage garden near the old folk's home.



The barber, who is also a leprosy patient and lives in Anandwan, in his barbershop, festooned with colorful posters of Hindu gods.



This is Sue from England, massaging the hand of a man with no fingers and one bent thumb.



This is the lady I described in a newsletter last year as "snaggle-toothed." She's the sweetest thing, but really having a hard time right now. When we first arrived and she saw Zohar, who comes every year, she burst into tears. She came to Anandwan when she was only a teenager, by which time she'd already lost all her fingers from the combination of leprosy and working with building materials. That would have been about 40 or 45 years ago.



This is Maria and Mausie, who I worked with last year doing wound care. Maria had that job this year and these two fell in love!



This woman was born without arms and uses her feet for everything, apparently, including making these stitched greeting cards. When I left she raised her feet together in a "namaste" position, as if they were hands.



These ladies are working in the big kitchen.



Tending the cows.



Up to no good, you can just tell!



You are so busted. You can't fool me just cuz you're cute!



A well-to-do couple was married in Anandwan while we were there, and we had at least one fancy meal. Yum.



My favorite pixy. She's so adorable.



Another one of the deaf girls.



More lovely deaf kids.



This is the girl we call "Lala," though no one seems to know where the name comes from, or if it's actually her name. Last year she was my favorite photography model, and I really like her - maybe because I didn't spend so much time with her. She's deaf but also has some emotional problems. Like the rest of us! She's a real handful.



The kids would move in a big circle as they're jumping rope. Impressive! They even got me out there. Not impressive.



My new favorite grandma. This lady can talk and talk as though you've known her your whole life, and as if you speak the language. I love her.



Beautiful Jyoti, just after a shower, and sitting up in a chair that the doctor recommended for her. She just refused to be left sitting up if we were leaving, since the old ladies are so rough with her. I'll bet she hasn't been in that chair since this photo was taken.



We met this older man walking down the road one day. He has a great face.



Poor, banged-up Sana. I wrote about her before - she's got advanced leprosy, pretty severe mental deficiencies, and she's an orphan living in the hospital. Maybe she's just accident prone, but also leprosy patients lose sensations in their extremities so they don't feel pain, typically in their hands and feet. I don't know what's going to happen to this little one.



This gentlemen works at the wound clinic.



We took Jyoti, at her request, to visit her family. We have no idea what's the "right" thing to do when we're in Anandwan - whether we should push Jyoti's family to take more responsibility or give them space or what. So we just hope for the best and mush forward. When her brother didn't want to come out of the house for a photo with Jyoti, I went in and said, "Get your ass out there - we're taking a photo!" Maybe I need to eat more tofu?



Towards the end of our time we threw a little tea party for the old folks, and Assaf and Peter were playing some Hindi devotional music, called bhajans. Fun!



I like these guys.



Just outside the tea party, a family was bathing the body of their mother so they could cremate her. That's her in the chair. So very "India" - it's in public, it's not hidden away, and it's just part of life.



The chapati factory (like wheat tortillas) in the new kitchen. Ladies on the outside are rolling the chapatis, which are first cooked on the metal stove top before being finished over the open fire. They get tossed to cool on the fabric laid on the floor to the left of the stove.



They could really crank out the chapatis in this place.



Rice was made in these giant pots, and a specialized shovel was used to fill the tubs, which were then carried on heads to be delivered elsewhere.



Jyoti smiles as she gets her hand painted with henna on the last day of our time in Anandwan.



After the henna party, this was our last hurrah - a night of "bhajans," the devotional Hindu songs.



Lala and her friend.



Sabiya, who lives in Anandwan with her husband and son, runs the small telephone office and helps out the retreat in many ways.



The work retreatants group photo. Six of us were in France this summer on the Dharma Yatra, plus I've known three others for around 10 years. Either way - we're all friends now.


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Sunday, January 13, 2013

Death in Tiru, real and imagined

"Do not waste time with this and that. You can possess the authority of the Buddha. Of what use is it to enjoy this fleeting world? The body is as transient as dew on the grass. Life passes as swiftly as a flash of lightning. Quickly, the body passes away. In a moment, life is gone."
 ~ Dogen


A beautiful young woman came to India to learn about meditation. From what I'm told, she was lively, funny, and full of youthful vigor. She became sick, as people often do in India, but it didn't seem serious. After a brief illness, and without warning, she died.

It's a tragedy on all levels - for her parents and other family members, her friends, and the people who knew her on her last days. It made me think about my own temporary existence, and imagine that I might also die suddenly, with little warning. We all know it's possible for any of us. Or, we sort of know. Actually, we know but we don't know. In some theoretical way we understand it, but we can't quite wrap our heads around it. But it's still worth trying, because this is our reality, right now. We are temporary, frail, transient beings, and we don't know when it will happen to us.

You may have heard me talk about this before: now is the time. Are you living the life that you would choose in your heart of hearts? Are you acting in accordance with your deepest values? Are you being as kind and loving as you'd like to be? If you're not living the life you've imagined, when will you start? Maybe today's a good day to begin again.

Much love,
Dave


All the photos below are from Anandwan, the leprosy community where I was just volunteering for three weeks.

Oh, the people in Anandwan are so sweet and lovable, such gentle ... HOLY CRAP! Do you see this guy's expression?! I'm glad he's not holding a sword cuz he looks like he could use it. Yeah, OK, I exaggerate, as usual. I think he's the same guy as in this photo from last year.



Can you imagine your grandma sitting comfortably on a concrete floor? When I'm her age it'll be a one-way trip, and three beefy orderlies will have to help me up. I can't wait!



Yeah, bat your eyes, and put your hand on my leg, you little devil you! She looks so sweet, but when we couldn't find the nice shawl that Xulia gave Jyoti, eventually it came flying in from overhead. This one had it tucked under her own mattress. Stealing from Jyoti - not nice, Grandma!



These bike-chairs are great for people with disabilities but good arm strength. The right arm turns a crank to motor around. They're pretty useless going up any kind of a hill, though.



At one of the tea-parties at the chai shop.



I love this kid! His mom is in the background. She's deaf, and he hardly makes a peep himself.



I wanted to put him in my pocket and take him home. But then I thought, he'd probably want to eat or something eventually and I decided it was too much work.



Cute!



On silent days Nathan led us on two-hour silent walks around the grounds of Anandwan.



This little girl, Sana, looks like she's really tracking in this photo, but she's pretty non-responsiveness most of the time. She quite mentally disabled, has advanced leprosy, is an orphan, and now lives in the hospital because there's no other place for her. Dang, that kid's banged up. I spent some afternoons with her and she was kind of a handful. She pulled at my hand like a Labrador Retriever.



This farming plot is just across from the old ladies home.



These guys crack me up. They were just hanging out and having a chat next to our guest house as I headed to breakfast.



One grandma helps another into the old folks home.



I was going to get some windshield cleaner for this guy's glasses. That's not a true story.



Some crazy looking caterpillar.



Carsten and Xulia walking with Jyoti. Baba Amte's grave is just in the background, and she always wants to go there. Then on to the chai shop, where she got her annual Coca-Cola. Imagine that - one Coke for the year. She wanted ice cream, too, but they were out. Maybe next year - cuz no one else is buying her Coke or ice cream.



One of the nurses in the hospital ward.



Christmas night bonfire and dinner.



Zohar holds up a candle to Dr. Amte, one of Baba Amte's children, to celebrate her 60th birthday.



A vendor at the weekly market.



As soon as this guy saw my camera he started posing with his chickens. Funny, I guess.



A Muslim man at the market.



Shaving clinic at the old folks home.



Saris drying in the sun.



Two baby cows at the dairy inside Anandwan.



The cow's milk in my chai? It's mostly milk from water buffalo.



Spices at the market.



I de-grossified this photo for the sensitive among you. It may not look like it, but trust me. I thought about looking away when he slit the goat's throat, but I realized he's going to cut it anyway, I might as well see what happens. It's part of my "alignment with reality" training.



Appetizing!



How long does fresh fish last in the hot sun, anyway? The black catfish-looking ones in the foreground are still alive.



Fried stuff.



Veggies, chickens, freshly-slaughtered goats, cookies, fruit - we got ya covered.



Sweet toast, for dunking in chai.



A local man with almost blonde hair recognized us from the market.



Cauliflower, onions, eggplant?...



I like this photo that I took as it was getting dark.



The full moon.



The ladies dorm room that Jyoti lives in, on movie night. We were worried that Jyoti wasn't getting enough to eat, so I went in to investigate without telling people what I was doing. I pretended like I was watching the awful Hindi movie cuz I like them, when I was actually waiting for Jyoti's food to come. After an hour and a half I decided that she must have eaten just before I arrived. Oops. Good thing I really do like Hindi movies.



The colorful grandma's basking in the morning sunshine.



More color.



Here's the hospital, with Sana and Neesha in the distance, along with Carsten.



Lilly, from France, making friends with Neesha, who I wrote about last year. Neesha is blind and quite severely mentally disabled, though she is able to do some things - like hold her feet up to put on her shoes and feed herself if you hand her the food. She can also really give a great hug. That's her super-power, for sure.



An evening construction crew digs a ditch near our guest house using torches for light.


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